So True. After 38 years, my husband and I finally understand. It’s about showing up for yourself and your partner who is your person again and again and again. It’s about learning how to spot and remove shame. It’s creating an emotionally safe home. It’s about validating each others emotional experiences. It’s about making decisions when both of you are calm and talking about hard topics. It’s about forgiveness and tolerance and belly laughs. It’s about learning what matters to your partner instead of doing what you love and thinking that they are just like you. It’s about staying curious, asking questions, and not answering for each other. It’s about realizing that we never stop becoming ourselves and a lifetime isn’t nearly long enough. It’s about honing apologies and strategies for making life easier instead of harder. May you continue to grow individually and as a couple.
So True. After 38 years, my husband and I finally understand. It’s about showing up for yourself and your partner who is your person again and again and again. It’s about learning how to spot and remove shame. It’s creating an emotionally safe home. It’s about validating each others emotional experiences. It’s about making decisions when both of you are calm and talking about hard topics. It’s about forgiveness and tolerance and belly laughs. It’s about learning what matters to your partner instead of doing what you love and thinking that they are just like you. It’s about staying curious, asking questions, and not answering for each other. It’s about realizing that we never stop becoming ourselves and a lifetime isn’t nearly long enough. It’s about honing apologies and strategies for making life easier instead of harder. May you continue to grow individually and as a couple.
“the difference between romance and desperation was whether or not someone was already looking back at you”
-w h e w. that’s a fucking LINE.
Deeply related to agonizing over which classmate got which generic Valentines message
The last paragraph made me want to applaud 🤓 we stan love as a presence!!!